Breakup, Separation & Divorce Counselling: Working Through the Pain

A separation or divorce is a life-changing event, especially if not by choice. The loss is as painful as grief, and the feelings being experienced are very similar in many ways.

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Separation and Divorce Counselling

Happy and fulfilling relationships give our lives purpose and challenge us to grow emotionally and intellectually. Our associations with others in the workforce, through community involvement, friendships, family groups and romantic relationships, all enrich our lives and extend us as human beings. Romantic relationships are some of the most powerful, requiring, as they do, a deep commitment to and trust in another person.

When romantic relationships work, they satisfy most of our emotional needs, although everyone still needs interactions with friends and family and their own creative outlets. However, when couples and relationships break down, the emotional turmoil is enormous. Most of the time, people are able to work through the grief and pain with time and the help of family and friends. For some people, however, the process can be overwhelming and they may find themselves unable to move on. This is when Separation and Divorce Counselling can help.

How a Psychologist or Couples Therapist Can Help

Couples Therapists and Psychologists help many clients going through the grief and pain of separation or ending a marriage. They witness first-hand the distress, anger and helplessness experienced by people who need more than peer support. These are the situations where effective counselling and therapy can make a real difference and help you work through your deep feelings to achieve a better outcome.

Couples Separation and Divorce

A separation or divorce is a life-changing event, especially if not by choice. The loss is as painful as grief, and the feelings being experienced are very similar in many ways. Separation or divorce brings with it the same loss of companionship, support and shared plans and dreams that occur with the death of a loved one.

Sometimes, people experience anger and resentment at an intensity they have never previously felt, and this frightens them as they think they are abnormal. They suppress these feelings while at the same time worrying about their mental state.

A Clinical Psychologist can help you navigate these difficult emotions in a controlled and positive way.

How Counselling Can Help Release Strong Negative Feelings

Suppressing feelings of sadness, fear, and confusion can have a negative impact on your wellbeing and only prolong the grieving process, as they may surface in other unexpected ways that further exacerbate the situation. Dwelling too long on feelings like hurt and blame drains energy and vitality and can spiral into depression.

A separation or divorce is an ending but also a new beginning. With emotional support from family and friends and professional assistance from a relationship or marriage counsellor, the pain will lessen with each day that passes. A psychologist’s goal is for their clients to live well, happy, and ready to start a new phase of their lives with confidence and optimism.