Self Esteem Problems
We can all lack confidence at times, but if you constantly criticise yourself, label yourself harshly, see yourself as low in value, or do not believe in or accept yourself, you may be suffering from low self-esteem.
Low self-esteem can become a self-perpetuating problem, as it leads people to predict failure and not try new things (and possibly succeed), and to distort the feedback they do get for their performance – only seeing shortfalls instead of successes. These effects can extend into all areas of life, including work, self-care, relationships and recreation. It can be associated with problems such as depression, social anxiety, addictions, eating disorders and other issues.
Ways to Build Self-Esteem
Building self-esteem starts with understanding where the problems developed. Following this, treatment with a psychologist can include working on:
- Reducing harmful self-criticism from your ‘inner critic’
- Challenging expectations of failure
- Changing patterns of behaviour which support low self-esteem
- Experiential work such as imagery to challenge critical figures from your past
- Building self-care, nurturing and self-compassion
- Taking steps towards valued goals.