Humans are wired for survival. Our brain is like Velcro for negative and Teflon for positive . Have you noticed that we tend to remember things that went wrong in our day or a negative comment that someone made, and how we replay these situations in our minds? Yet we may have missed the lovely weather, a kind stranger, or ten other positive comments that the same person may have made. This is the brain’s built in negativity bias, which means that we experience and remember painful or negative situations and emotions more strongly than positive ones. After all we can always find another carrot if we survived today.
This is, however, only half the story. Science also tells us that positive emotions play an equally important role in our survival. Specifically, positive emotions broaden our awareness and encourage novel and exploratory behaviours to build our resource . When we feel joy or other positive emotions, we are more likely to be curious about our environment, connect with people, and be more creative. And thus, supporting us to develop well-being and resilience in the longer-term.
Fortunately, it is possible to train our brain to take in the good :
This takes 30 seconds to a minute, and no one has to know! Each time we practise taking in the good, it may only make a small difference. Like drops of water on a rock, we are persistent, something as soft as water can carve a hole in a solid rock.
What’s one thing good in your life?
 Rick Hanson
 See Barbara Fredrickson’s work.